Excited now, not nervous – Hi, I'm Selina

After 6 years of playing polo I was looking for a new discipline for myself and my horses. Terrible nerves whilst competing at shows and a feeling of not really fitting into what I was doing had left me feeling lost and disenchanted…. fast forward after mindset coaching – I no longer feel embarrassed that we have tried so many different disciplines – I feel proud that I gave them a shot and that my horses acquitted themselves well. I no longer feel like I “have to” aim for something in particular and “should” be going to every event – should has gone from my vocabulary!

I am enjoying my horses and the things we do – I have opened my eyes and embraced a new sport which I totally love and have found the feeling of community and belonging which Selina had identified was missing from my horse activities. I now feel excited for the future and am so grateful to Selina. I still get nervous heading to a show or event but it’s more in anticipation and excitement than stupid overwhelming nerves.

~ Sue Croser

had always struggled with imposter syndrome and anxiety leading up to and on competition days, however, it was getting worse and occurring in the lead up to lessons or even just riding with others. I realised I needed help and Selina reached out. Honestly, the program is hard to explain. There is so much information that impacts and relates to people differently. Selina is so insightful and has a wonderful way of challenging your language or thinking in a kind and supportive way. I found I was self sabotaging myself through comparing to others, judging myself and my horse unfairly, and I was scared to acknowledge achievements ( no matter how small).

I discovered that I was scared to actually show up for my horse and myself. What a horrible feeling that would have been for my horses. I now have so much faith and trust in my horse, our connection and training plus feeling so much more confident to acknowledge our achievements.

I am feeling brave and courageous and really looking forward to competing this year. Thank you so much Selina!!

I recommend Selina’s program to absolutely anyone.

Hi Selina, I DID IT!

I took the horse I’ve started to a campdraft, my goal I set last year at the clinic. Achieving his goal I place solely on you, the guidance and direction you gave me by actually writing down realistic goals, breaking it down and giving me a timeline. It stuck with me. It made it real, achievable and my god, I DID IT!

By Sunday afternoon I was absolutely buzzing with a mixture of pride, adrenaline and love for my new little horse and myself.

Angela Harvey

I found Equestrian Confidence one day when it flashed up on my newsfeed on Facebook.

It was like it screamed at me from through my phone, everything I was feeling with my horses and horse riding – anxiety, nerves, lack of motivation, where do I begin, all these things were holding me back from following my dreams and I had finally found an outlet that exactly understood all those feelings I was having. And the best part – offered a solution.

Of course, it took me some deliberation to contact Selina, I was having the same discussion and argument with myself that I did when it came to doing something with my horses.

It didn’t take long and I had started my phone coaching with Selina. Looking back on it, all I can say is wow. From the moments that happened in those weeks of coaching, the person who I was and the person I was being, then including so much that was conquered, it has all really altered my life in such a way that I now know that I am living on the path I am meant to be, a life that I had been dreaming of for so long, a life that I want.

I started riding again once I started my calls with Selina. I hadn’t ridden in about 18 months and the horse I brought into work hadn’t been ridden in at least 2/3 years. It was winter so the weather wasn’t great, the days got dark early and I was working full time, all excellent excuses for someone to not want to ride. This did not stop me, I found the motivation and drive that I was hiding in me, I kept riding. My horse was not easy and he tested me a lot. This did not stop me either, I found the courage I had in myself and began to trust my ability and I kept riding.

In 13 weeks, I went from a person who dreamed of riding to becoming a horse rider, competing a horse that had been sitting in a paddock for 3 years to a horse that was now a dressage diva that scored 10’s in his first ever Dressage tests and placed 3rd and 9th out of 40 riders, at a massive, busy competition of 800 combinations over various levels.

My everyday life, relationships, work life have all benefited from Selina’s coaching. I am able to make the right decisions for myself, no matter how daunting it may look at the time I trust myself now, I have motivation and I have courage to make anything I want possible.

Thank you Selina, I will always be grateful for the chapter you wrote into my life.

If you’re reading this and feeling self-doubt, fear of failure, anxious about being judged and what others think, feeling like you don’t belong, finding excuses not to ride or not to enter that competition or to scratch from that competition you have entered, Selina’s coaching can help turn it around and bring the joy back with your horse.

Somewhere along the way I’d lost the fun and my earlier enjoyment of riding had become an angst-ridden experience. I’ve realised that my perfectionist self has been a fun-sponge and has been sucking away my joy of riding, with my horse increasingly sharing this feeling. I’m very grateful for finding Selina….

I’m at the tail end of Selina’s mindset program and I can genuinely say that no other coach or clinic has been so impactful on my riding. There’s been this fundamental shift in my self-belief. I’ve let go of a whole bunch of crap that had been weighing me down, without me even realising it was there. All the negatives are gone – fear of failure, judgement, expectations. I’m enjoying riding like I did as a child and am in the moment with my horse like never before. And OMG I’m excited to compete again!

~Justine Dean

p.s. Justine has now gone on to ride at Masters Level in Working Equitation and is kicking ass, both competing and having fun while doing it.

After six weeks not only had I found my mojo with my riding but personally I was kicking goals!!

I learnt how to believe in myself, have trust, acknowledge my failures and successes

Chardell O’Neill

Selina is really intuitive with where you are at in your life. I’m not talking life stories, I’m talking how you use words and your non verbal communication. Selina listens very well to what you say, and how you hold yourself, then picks up on things that I didn’t even think about. One of the words Selina picked up for me was being free.

There were some pics taken where I thought oh my I have aged and put on the pounds, but the look on my face said it all I looked happy and free. I can honestly say I have never looked at myself looking like that in my whole life.

I know after meeting Selina that some of the areas in my life will improve, and I have been sharing with the world a bit of a different person on the outside.

Thank you Selina, I can honestly say you have empowered me, and I look forward to seeing where this journey takes me.

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