Woohoo!!

I found Equestrian Confidence one day when it flashed up on my newsfeed on Facebook.

It was like it screamed at me from through my phone, everything I was feeling with my horses and horse riding – anxiety, nerves, lack of motivation, where do I begin, all these things were holding me back from following my dreams and I had finally found an outlet that exactly understood all those feelings I was having. And the best part – offered a solution.

Of course, it took me some deliberation to contact Selina, I was having the same discussion and argument with myself that I did when it came to doing something with my horses.

It didn’t take long and I had started my phone coaching with Selina. Looking back on it, all I can say is wow. From the moments that happened in those weeks of coaching, the person who I was and the person I was being, then including so much that was conquered, it has all really altered my life in such a way that I now know that I am living on the path I am meant to be, a life that I had been dreaming of for so long, a life that I want.

I started riding again once I started my calls with Selina. I hadn’t ridden in about 18 months and the horse I brought into work hadn’t been ridden in at least 2/3 years. It was winter so the weather wasn’t great, the days got dark early and I was working full time, all excellent excuses for someone to not want to ride. This did not stop me, I found the motivation and drive that I was hiding in me, I kept riding. My horse was not easy and he tested me a lot. This did not stop me either, I found the courage I had in myself and began to trust my ability and I kept riding.

In 13 weeks, I went from a person who dreamed of riding to becoming a horse rider, competing a horse that had been sitting in a paddock for 3 years to a horse that was now a dressage diva that scored 10’s in his first ever Dressage tests and placed 3rd and 9th out of 40 riders, at a massive, busy competition of 800 combinations over various levels.

My everyday life, relationships, work life have all benefited from Selina’s coaching. I am able to make the right decisions for myself, no matter how daunting it may look at the time I trust myself now, I have motivation and I have courage to make anything I want possible.

Thank you Selina, I will always be grateful for the chapter you wrote into my life.

I don’t think I can put a value on Selina’s mindset coaching.

It’s priceless. You just don’t get that from any clinic that you go to. Everyone can be taught to ride better, but without the right mindset it doesn’t make a difference. My competition nerves were crippling. No matter how much more I learnt or practiced, it all fell apart when I rode into the camp / arena.

Since coaching I have won and placed and made women’s finals for ABCRA. That’s good, but what matters to me is I having fun again, even at competitions.

Donna Sinclair

If you’re reading this and feeling self-doubt, fear of failure, anxious about being judged and what others think, feeling like you don’t belong, finding excuses not to ride or not to enter that competition or to scratch from that competition you have entered, Selina’s coaching can help turn it around and bring the joy back with your horse.

Somewhere along the way I’d lost the fun and my earlier enjoyment of riding had become an angst-ridden experience. I’ve realised that my perfectionist self has been a fun-sponge and has been sucking away my joy of riding, with my horse increasingly sharing this feeling. I’m very grateful for finding Selina….

I’m at the tail end of Selina’s mindset program and I can genuinely say that no other coach or clinic has been so impactful on my riding. There’s been this fundamental shift in my self-belief. I’ve let go of a whole bunch of crap that had been weighing me down, without me even realising it was there. All the negatives are gone – fear of failure, judgement, expectations. I’m enjoying riding like I did as a child and am in the moment with my horse like never before. And OMG I’m excited to compete again! 

~Justine Dean

p.s. Justine has now gone on to ride at Masters Level in Working Equitation and is kicking ass, both competing and having fun while doing it.