Anything is possible now – Hi, I'm Selina

I found Equestrian Confidence one day when it flashed up on my newsfeed on Facebook.

It was like it screamed at me from through my phone, everything I was feeling with my horses and horse riding – anxiety, nerves, lack of motivation, where do I begin, all these things were holding me back from following my dreams and I had finally found an outlet that exactly understood all those feelings I was having. And the best part – offered a solution.

Of course, it took me some deliberation to contact Selina, I was having the same discussion and argument with myself that I did when it came to doing something with my horses.

It didn’t take long and I had started my phone coaching with Selina. Looking back on it, all I can say is wow. From the moments that happened in those weeks of coaching, the person who I was and the person I was being, then including so much that was conquered, it has all really altered my life in such a way that I now know that I am living on the path I am meant to be, a life that I had been dreaming of for so long, a life that I want.

I started riding again once I started my calls with Selina. I hadn’t ridden in about 18 months and the horse I brought into work hadn’t been ridden in at least 2/3 years. It was winter so the weather wasn’t great, the days got dark early and I was working full time, all excellent excuses for someone to not want to ride. This did not stop me, I found the motivation and drive that I was hiding in me, I kept riding. My horse was not easy and he tested me a lot. This did not stop me either, I found the courage I had in myself and began to trust my ability and I kept riding.

In 13 weeks, I went from a person who dreamed of riding to becoming a horse rider, competing a horse that had been sitting in a paddock for 3 years to a horse that was now a dressage diva that scored 10’s in his first ever Dressage tests and placed 3rd and 9th out of 40 riders, at a massive, busy competition of 800 combinations over various levels.

My everyday life, relationships, work life have all benefited from Selina’s coaching. I am able to make the right decisions for myself, no matter how daunting it may look at the time I trust myself now, I have motivation and I have courage to make anything I want possible.

Thank you Selina, I will always be grateful for the chapter you wrote into my life.

If you’re reading this and feeling self-doubt, fear of failure, anxious about being judged and what others think, feeling like you don’t belong, finding excuses not to ride or not to enter that competition or to scratch from that competition you have entered, Selina’s coaching can help turn it around and bring the joy back with your horse.

Somewhere along the way I’d lost the fun and my earlier enjoyment of riding had become an angst-ridden experience. I’ve realised that my perfectionist self has been a fun-sponge and has been sucking away my joy of riding, with my horse increasingly sharing this feeling. I’m very grateful for finding Selina….

I’m at the tail end of Selina’s mindset program and I can genuinely say that no other coach or clinic has been so impactful on my riding. There’s been this fundamental shift in my self-belief. I’ve let go of a whole bunch of crap that had been weighing me down, without me even realising it was there. All the negatives are gone – fear of failure, judgement, expectations. I’m enjoying riding like I did as a child and am in the moment with my horse like never before. And OMG I’m excited to compete again!

~Justine Dean

p.s. Justine has now gone on to ride at Masters Level in Working Equitation and is kicking ass, both competing and having fun while doing it.

Before attending the Selina’s online program, I felt insecure about myself and my riding. I would often go into a test with a huge amount of nerves resulting in multiple course errors and an often red face. It didn’t matter how often I ran through my test or prepared myself, I just couldn’t get past the fear of failure I held inside.

Fast forward to finishing the course and I now find my nerves have turned into excitement and I am nailing my dressage test and coming out feeling happy. My horse and I have a new lease of our riding life! It’s brilliant, can’t recommend Selina’s coaching highly enough!!

Kuyan Rider

When I came to Selina requesting coaching five months ago, I’d stopped believing in my long-harboured dreams. I tried to stay positive, but unconsciously I was disassociating myself from people out of shame, I couldn’t be one of ‘them’.

I didn’t know it back then, but Selina’s coaching was exactly what I’d been waiting for. No changes happened overnight, but within a month I had my old flame of ambition back (and a much more mature version of it), and I was amazed at what opportunities were starting to show up when I changed my mindset.

Within two months, I was almost craving situations that I’d find uncomfortable but could give me opportunities, and had secured a sponsorship from a major company – something that a couple of months earlier I wouldn’t have dreamed of. Three months of mindset coaching and I was really noticing a difference in the confidence in the way I trained.

Four months in and I’m totally committed to achieving my dreams, and because I am now the person who ‘can’ put themselves out there, confident that I will!

Four months ago, I felt stuck in a rut, and looked to the future with uncertainty and even anxiety. Now, I’m committed to and excited for the days, months and years ahead. I’m so grateful for my mindset coaching, and the best part is this is just the beginning!

Whether you are struggling to overcome a fear, battling lack of confidence in yourself, feeling a little ‘stuck’, or even feel like you might be responsible for holding yourself back, do yourself a favour and get in touch with Selina. I promise you will be so thankful that you did.

~ Enya Crockford

Everything is related. Some personal stuff was affecting my riding and with Selina’s coaching I cleared the block and was back to competing my best.

It sounds simple now, it wasn’t simple when I was stuck.

~Liz Hodges

A friend of mine was telling me about this great coach who was helping her not only with all things equine, but in her life path as well. While I don’t ride, I was in a particularly bad spot at work that I wanted to work through.

I am tremendously thankful that I picked up the phone and called Selina as I got so much more from her coaching that I ever would have anticipated. Taking control of language was a game changer for me, not only verbally but also the internal language I was using.

Tactics for dealing with difficult conversations and changing the way I approached meetings to remove the stress helped me achieve the outcome I wanted. Learning how to take the power away from another person by not playing their game and knowing when to step back and assess really helped me move through the work issues.

Selina guided me to learn that I am enough and I empower others, that “resentment is a poison that you choose to drink from” and also to CELEBRATE.

Powerful words. Thank you Selina.

~ Jennifer Padman

Note: Jen went on to get publicly awarded at work for her contribution.

After 6 years of playing polo I was looking for a new discipline for myself and my horses. Terrible nerves whilst competing at shows and a feeling of not really fitting into what I was doing had left me feeling lost and disenchanted…. fast forward after mindset coaching – I no longer feel embarrassed that we have tried so many different disciplines – I feel proud that I gave them a shot and that my horses acquitted themselves well. I no longer feel like I “have to” aim for something in particular and “should” be going to every event – should has gone from my vocabulary!

I am enjoying my horses and the things we do – I have opened my eyes and embraced a new sport which I totally love and have found the feeling of community and belonging which Selina had identified was missing from my horse activities. I now feel excited for the future and am so grateful to Selina. I still get nervous heading to a show or event but it’s more in anticipation and excitement than stupid overwhelming nerves.

~ Sue Croser

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